Does your child not dare to fall asleep in their own bed? Or does your child crawl between you every night? With these ten tips from remedial educationalist Mariëlle Beckers, your child will be sleeping in his own bed again in no time.
Many children find it difficult to fall asleep alone in their own room. Or they come to lie down in the “large bed” after a visit to the toilet at night. That can be cozy, but sometimes you prefer that they just sleep in their own bed. Do you also get a bit of your night’s rest?
Ten tips for letting your child sleep in their own bed
Do you want your bed all to yourself (and your partner) again? These ten tips from remedial educationalist Mariëlle Beckers will help you out.
Find the cause
If your child wants to sleep in his own bed, you must first understand why he does not want his own bed to sleep. Is your child perhaps afraid of something or is he feeling alone? If you know why your child doesn’t want to sleep in their own bed, you can come up with solutions. Maybe a night light or a dream catcher will help your child?
Start a new routine
Sometimes it is good to change the bedtime routine. For example, do things in a different order and really take the time to put your child to bed; read a book extensively or play a quiet game with your child. Do not let your child look at screens well before going to bed. This makes it harder for your child to fall asleep. If your child is afraid of monsters under the bed, you can also go on a monster hunt together first. Do consider whether your child is old enough for this, which can also cause fear in young children.
Exit the room
Do not sit with your child until he falls asleep in his own bed. Then when your child wakes up, he will wonder where you are. Rather encourage your child to sleep in their own bed and to sleep alone. Does your child find this scary or difficult; clutter around your child’s room. A good time to fold it, for example. When your child hears you, he will feel less alone.
Name the benefits for your child to sleep in their own bed ; he lies comfortably between his hugs and is not bothered by papa’s snoring, for example. And tell him that he is already so big that he will certainly succeed. In short, make sure it doesn’t feel like punishment, but like something nice.
Don’t expect miracles
If your child crawled into bed with you almost every day, your bed will not immediately be ‘child-free’ the first night. And the first week will probably not go smoothly either. Not bad at all; this just takes time. Keep an eye on the goal, because before you know it, your child and you will fall back into old patterns. Persevere!
Involve your child in the process
Tell your child that you are going to work together to get him to sleep in his own bed. Ask him what makes this easier for him. Buying new bedding or a special stuffed animal can be a good idea. Also discuss what is and is not going well and let your child think about possible solutions.
Reward your child
A reward system can also help. Make a calendar and give your child a point every night they sleep in their own bed. He may choose a reward for so many points. This could be a trip to the zoo or choosing what to eat one evening.
If your child is back next to your bed at night, it is tempting to let him sleep with you anyway. After all, it is also very pleasant sometimes. Still, rather bring your child back to their own room to avoid confusion. Even though that can sometimes cause resistance. If your child will sleep well in his own bed, he can spend the night with mom and dad again.
It is not always easy, especially if you are tired of yourself, but remain patient if your child gets out of bed ten times or struggles when going to bed. Getting angry is only counterproductive. Persevere!
Reward success, don’t punish setbacks
Reward your child when he makes progress, but don’t punish him if he gets back to your bed. For some children, it is very difficult to no longer snuggle between mom and dad or maybe your child is so scared that it really does not dare in its own bed. If the latter is the case, build it up slowly. For example, let your child first sleep on their own mattress in your room and only then in their own room. But no matter how difficult it is; it will work out in the end. Really!