As you prepare for the delivery, try to imagine what will be comfortable for you. But did you know that you can also think about a good delivery for your baby, and for your early attachment?
Birth is a very important moment in the process of attachment. Attachment starts in the womb and lasts at least the entire first year. Just after birth, the baby is super alert and ready to make contact. Just as you are curious about who your baby is, she or he is also curious to see and get to know you. There are many things you can do to promote bonding. And to make a very nice start together. What can you include in your birth plan? You may even want to turn it into an attachment plan!
1 – Direction and trust
During your delivery, YOU are the one who decides what happens. Sometimes it seems like the caregivers are making the choices, but they are only giving you (or should be) advice. It is up to you whether you want to follow this advice. Whether it’s about breaking your water or leaving for the hospital: you can make the choice.
If you manage to give birth your own way, you will find that it helps to have confidence in yourself, and that is a great start to motherhood. Because you will have to make your own choices again and again.
Of course, keeping control does not mean that the delivery will go exactly as you had dreamed before, but that you decide how you deal with what happens.
2 – Contact with your baby during delivery
For most mothers, there are (more or less) moments during the delivery when they need all the attention to deal with all the feelings and the storm in their bodies. But outside those moments you can always try to make contact. Babies seem to be thrilled to be born too, and they need you to reassure them. It is very nice for them to know that you are still there for them!
For example, you can ask your partner to help you with this from time to time. He can also reassure the baby himself.
3 – Golden hour – or two, or three
You’ve probably heard about it: the golden hour. Right after delivery, you are all super alert – real hormone bombs. This is the ideal time for your first meeting and the start of breastfeeding. If things go differently, it can be caught up later, but it is such a shame when this moment is lost. I have already written a lot about it, I will not repeat that here – in order not to make the blog too long. Read here about the special instinct of newborns. In that first hour, babies find the breast on their own, and this is in many ways the ideal start to your breastfeeding relationship. And read about all the beauty of skin-to-skin contact here. Make sure that your birth plan states that you want undisturbed contact, naked, warm, comfortable, and with subdued light and sound. If your baby does not wear a cap, you can ‘sniff’ and that also promotes contact. Dressing, drying, weighing, cutting the umbilical cord? It can all wait!
4- The three of you
immediately after delivery. That’s your reward :-). And for breastfeeding, it is also a very good idea if your baby stays with you until he has completed the complete breast crawl. Yet your baby also wants to get to know his father / your partner. I have heard a few times now of fathers who, due to circumstances, spent the first hours with their babies, for example, because their wife developed Help during childbirth. These children later had a very special bond with their father. Dads are AS good as mothers at calming their babies through skin contact. It is important that your partner also takes the baby skin-to-skin as soon as possible. If not during the golden hour, then soon after!
Skin-to-skin contact remains pleasant during the first weeks with your baby. Slowly you can start adding more to that. Do you want to know more about it? Then follow the online pregnancy course!
And do you have a special situation, for example, because your previous experience was not so beautiful? Or because your delivery will be medical, or because you have previously experienced a crying baby or premature birth? I am happy to guide you with one-on-one coaching so that you can also experience a nice start of bonding in these types of situations!